We all wish dating could be more straightforward, but it never is.
Between online dating, in-person dating, and relationship building, there are so many factors in play that all have to work out in order to achieve success.
Of course, some of those elements are easier to control than others and often times a relationship that has potential is lost because of the simple things.
More specifically, it’s because men can be clueless about how to act on a first date!
That is why I have compiled a list of five things you should make sure to do on your next date as specified by the people who know best… Women!
1. Mind Your Manners
There are some things that are so basic that they shouldn’t even have to be said. And yet, here we are.
Your etiquette, or the way you do things and treat other people, tell a woman a lot about you.
Things like saying please and thank you, holding the door as your date walks through, and even walking your date home are good ways to indicate that you care about your date, but more importantly about how you affect the things around you.
I’m not saying that you have to brush up on your Emily Post, but it might not hurt either.
2. Act Confident
Do you know who gets nervous on a first date?
That’s because first dates are scary. They come with a lot of expectations and a desire to present oneself in the best way possible.
One of the worst things you can do on a first date, however, is to let that fear show.
Women love a confident man and there is a no bigger turnoff to some than a guy who can’t relax or help them feel at peace.
The confidence you display doesn’t even have to be real (fake it ‘til you make it), as long as you try and demonstrate throughout the date that you are in your comfort zone and you are capable of handling this important, albeit nerve-wracking, interaction.
3. Clean Up and Dress Smart
If you need a special occasion to pass a comb through your hair, a first date is definitely it. That’s because it is your opportunity to present your best self, in addition to putting out some important vibes.
The prep you put into how you look for your date says a lot about the reverence with which you hold the date and the woman you’re with. If you think running to a date from work will impress her, think again.
It’s also important to give women the reassurance that being with you doesn’t mean they will have to clean up after you, or worse, clean YOU.
4. Keep Things Casual
Your family issues, your ex, your money problems…
These are all things you should not even be thinking about on your first date! Instead, opt for the more superficial and casual.
A first date is an initial assessment of personalities. It’s not a time to debate the economy or social issues. Keeping things casual is vital to figuring out if you like one another for who you are.
I also recommend opting for something simple on a first date. Instead of a heavy meal, maybe just get drinks. The simpler the better.
If you enjoyed your date and want the night to continue, that option is always there.
5. Look Up and Pay Attention
No matter how you feel about the woman you are on a date with, the least you can do is show interest in this person who is also sacrificing her evening to be with you.
Look her in the eye and focus in on what she is saying. This shows her that you are confident in yourself and that you are someone who knows how to listen.
Oh, and don’t even think about peaking at your phone!
About the Author
Pauline Plott is a London-based blogger who became a dating guru after learning the psychology behind modern romance and signing up for every dating website in pursuit of relationship bliss. She shares her reviews and opinions on www.DatingSpot.co.uk.